10 Thoughts on Living and Dying

Today Kobe Bryant died. 

Thursday, January 23, Clayton Christensen died. 

The older I get, the more those I know and admire die. 

And to think I really didn’t think about death much before Becky, my wife and Speaker of the House of Representatives in the Utah Legislature, died. 

A few days after Becky died, Stephen Hales, a long-time friend and Provo leader, died. 

Five months later, Mark Openshaw died, we talked about education the night before his death.

Since then, on a regular basis, I see people in my world die. 

On top of it, following Becky’s death, I entered a world of widows that is far larger than you might think. 

Every day people die and leave behind spouses, children, grandchildren, loved ones and friends. 

Here are 10 things I’ve learned:

1. Death is as much a part of life as birth. Live each day with purpose.

2. The goal isn’t to live the longest. Instead, it is to live well for however long we have.

3. Love those around you. Help them succeed.

4. Life is unpredictable. Almost always, our plan A doesn’t happen. Plan B can be great too.

5. Do good in the world. Serve others.

6. Find your purpose. You can’t help everyone, but you can help someone.

7. Live a real, authentic and genuine life. Do your best. Be honest. Be nice.

8. Relationships matter. Memories matter. Family matters.

9. Life insurance matters. Leave those you love with resources.

10. There is plenty in the world for everyone. Be generous.

Plus One:

11. We all make mistakes. Make things right as best you can. As soon as possible.

If we do these things, we will get to the end of our time on earth and have few regrets. We will live a rich and rewarding life.